Every now and then, I run into those individuals who make these vague, wishy washy comments about same sex marriage and homosexuality that leave me scratching my head. One of my favorite (read: redundant) comments is the usual "I don't agree with homosexuality, but..."
There's that word: agree. In any other context, it makes perfect sense. For instance: I don't agree with everything President Obama says or his actions concerning Eric Snowden. I don't agree with some of my Twitter followers who think Beyonce is this groundbreaking goddess incapable of doing anything wrong (Bunch of revisionist historians... trying to act like The Fighting Temptations didn't happen). I can agree and disagree with people's actions and words, but what exactly are you disagreeing with when it comes to someone's sexual orientation?
My being gay is not something that is up for debate, really; it is what it is. It was not a choice of mine, and there wasn't some agreement or statement I had to sign before doing so. Homosexuality or heterosexuality aren't worldviews that one adopts; it is who one is. Imagine if someone said "I don't agree with heterosexuality"... what would the response be then? Hopefully, it would be the same confused and bewildered reaction that I have when this statement is made at me.
What is it you are really trying to say? That by "not agreeing" with homosexuality, that you don't think it's real? You don't think that being gay is natural? Do you think that being gay is something that goes against societal norms and morals? Do you think that homosexuality is a choice? You see? Questions posed about homosexuality can lead to answers of agreement or disagreement, but homosexuality itself? No, it makes no logical sense because it is a sexual orientation, not a statement of opinion. It's like saying "Even though I don't agree with the female gender, I still think that they deserve rights." Well, gee, thanks, you douche, but what exactly is it about women being women that you don't "agree with"?
Keep in mind, no one is asking anyone who is against gay marriage or homosexuality (the latter being another example of an ill-formed opposing stance), but if you're going to oppose something that is inherent, at least have a valid response, other than not agreeing with gay people. Sorry, but my being gay isn't up for a debate; I just am, whether you think you can agree with it or not. That sounds like a personal issue that you need to work out... do us both a favor and work that out. Okay, I'm done.